Save the Date and Wedding Gift Etiquette

In today’s world, planning ahead has become a necessity. Save the dates allow your guests to plan for your wedding day well in advance. This is especially important for out-of-town guests, or destination weddings. Remember, this is not an announcement, it’s just a heads up!

Save the date etiquette is vital here. The most important thing to do before sending out a save the date card is to finalize your guest list. The save the date card is a pre-announcement that lets your guests know that they will be invited to the wedding.

Once you sent out a save the date card to a guest, you cannot un-invite them. If, by chance there is a wedding budget crisis, and you need to make guest cuts, it is good to know this before you send out the cards. You can trim a guest list easier when the guests are not yet pre-invited.

When you send out a save the date card, be sure to list if the person invited can include a guest. There are a couple of ways this can be done. If you know the name of the guest that will be invited, include them when addressing the card. If not, it is acceptable to include "and guest". Also, if children are to be included, list them on the card as well.

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When should save the dates be sent?

Send them as soon as you set your wedding date and have secured your ceremony and reception sites... This can be from 6 months to a year before the wedding. When planning your destination wedding, the more time you can give your guests the better, it can be a year or mom in advance.

Helpful info:

The only guests who will be invited to the wedding should receive a save the date. For wording, keep it shirt and sweet! Your names, wedding date and “Invitation with details to follow.” If it’s a destination wedding how about including travel agencies along with resort and hotel information.

Your save the dates can be anything from refrigerator magnets to photo postcards, skies the limit!

Wedding Gift Etiquette

Wedding gift amount etiquette is a topic that has been discussed with set amounts one should give the happy couple. It is important to remember that the gift is a representation of your love for them... no matter what it costs.

It is not good wedding gift etiquette for a couple to ask for money or gifts when they invite loved ones and friends to their wedding. It is an opportunity for those invited to help the couple start their lives with the gifts that they choose.

Wedding gift etiquette states that if you are invited to the wedding you should present the couple with a gift. It is appropriate to send the gift to the couple or a parent before or after the wedding. If you choose to give the couple money, you can give the card to them during the reception.

When you are deciding how much to spend on a gift, the most important thing you need to do is look at your budget. Also, be mindful of how many weddings you will be invited to during the year. Purchasing multiple wedding gifts in a year can add up quickly, especially if you are invited to bridal showers as well.

Also, you need to take into consideration the amount of travel you will need to do in order to attend the wedding. If you are traveling some distance to the wedding, those costs will need to be factored into the budget amount you have for the wedding gift. The bride and groom will be so grateful that you took the time and expense to attend their wedding, they will not be expecting an extravagant gift.

Once you have looked at your budget and determined how much you have to spend, get creative. Take what you know about the bride and groom and find a gift that is either on the registry, or one that you know they will enjoy. Our favorite gifts from our wedding weren't the ones that were really expensive. They were the little ones that came from the heart of the guests. After 13 plus years of marriage, we still know who the gifts were from.

Wedding gift amount etiquette comes down to what you, the guest can afford. For those you are really close to, it is appropriate to do more for them, if you can. The bride and groom will show their good wedding manners by being grateful for anything and everything that they receive.

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Finding the Perfect Wedding Photographer

Ok, so now you’re engaged and you’re to do list is going to grow by the day. One of the biggies on that list is finding the perfect wedding photographer. Looking for the right photographer can be one of the more intimidating parts of wedding planning, but wedding photographers in beautifulknow how to get the job done! When you book a wedding photographer you’re purchasing a product (albums, canvases, prints, etc) but you also need to find someone you can trust completely. Knowing where to begin can be a challenge, so don’t hesitate to ask your planner for some referrals. I have provided some tips to get you started and lead you in the right direction.

When should we begin to look for a photographer? It is never too soon to find your photographer! Planning on having your photographer booked at least six months in advance of your day is a good goal. Any less than that the risk is not bingeing able to hire your first choice. Also, having less than six months restricts your options for bridal and engagement sessions. If you live in a region that has more extreme temperatures you may find yourself limited to a hot or cold time of the year. Finally, more time to cultivate the relationship with your photographer is always a good thing.

How do I begin my search? If you have friends that have been married within the last year, start asking them about their wedding photographers. Ask to look at their albums, images and just as importantly pick their brains about the experience of working with that photographer. Google is also ad incredible tool. Search for photographers in your area and don’t forget to search using the name of your venue. Look for photographers that have blogged about your wedding location. Make a favorites folder in your web browser and limit yourself to 15-20 wedding photographers. Once you hit 20 always knock someone off of the list when adding someone new. From that list make a “Top 5″ list. Contact those photographers and set up consolations. From that point you already love their photography. Personality, budget and availability will likely be the deciding factors.

How much do I need to know about their camera equipment? Photographers love to talk about gear, so don’t be afraid to ask about their cameras, lenses and backup strategies. Photographers that shoot digital should be shooting on the latest camera bodies. Technology has made huge leaps in the last 18 months and the creative possibilities available to photographers in low light are better than ever. Your photographer should have backup camera bodies and assortment of large aperture lenses specialized for low light photography. Ask your wedding planner and photographer how they handle the security of your images after the wedding. Typical solutions should include multiple backups in their studio as well as secure off site backups such as duplicate hard drives in a back safety deposit box. They should have “worst case” plans. Hard drives are mechanical and will fail, and home and studio accidents can happen. You want to know the long-term safety of your wedding day images has been planned for.

Are engagement photos really necessary? The time in your life between your engagement and wedding is one of the most exciting you’ll experience. Having a photographic time capsule by virtue of an engagement session is something that you’ll be more grateful for as the years pass. Not only that, the time and experience spent with your photographer before the wedding day goes a long way towards establishing the trust a photographer needs to create their best work. Having spent time creatively together before your wedding, you will understand the way your photographer works and having seen the results you’ll trust that work. Knowing that you can just enjoy the day and your wedding photographer will be there to scoop up the moments is a wonderful feeling on your wedding day.

How important is a second photographer? There is a lot of talk about second shooters these days. Quite frankly, you don’t want to hire a photographer that couldn’t capture your day solo. One person cannot capture every moment but neither can two. A second shooter may add a small measure of security but it is often marginal. Some photographers would disagree with me on this point but from my perspective as a wedding photographer I would rather be concentrating on my clients and their moments on their wedding day than managing a second photographer. If you are paying extra for a second photographer I encourage you to ask to view a portfolio of those shooters images. Photographers often charge for a 2nd photographer and then use unpaid assistants that are looking for experience. If you are having a very large wedding with many attendants (250+ guests) that’s when a second photographer really adds value.

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How to Bustle a Wedding Gown

How to Bustle a Wedding Gown

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A grand tradition emerging once again! Bustles are back, longer trains, longer veils, both traditional and illusion gowns. Love it! A few weeks ago,

You've finally found it! The dazzling gown of your dreams! Now it's time to decide what bustle is right for you, your budget, and style of dress? Bustles are made to lift the train of your gown up off the ground. This is typically done between the ceremony and reception so that the gorgeous wedding gown you have chosen does not accidently get ruined or stepped on while celebrating with family, friends, and your one true love!

A Short Over View of Bustles

The Over Bustle

On an Over Bustle the fabric of the train is brought up to mid-level on the outside of the skirt. This is accomplished with either clips or buttons to shorten the train of the gown.  A good seamstress will hide outer holds into the seams or detail work so they are not easily visible to guests. As with most bustles, the amount of fabric is determined by the height of your shoe and the hem.

The Under Bustle or The French Bustle

With an Under Bustle or French Bustle the points to tie up the gown will all be on the under side. This is typically accomplished with 1-5 ribbons or rings either color coded or numbered. Under Bustles require some assistance from the bride. She will need to hold the upper layer(s) of the skirt while her chosen bridal party member tightly ties the ribbons together. Once all the bustles are in place the upper layer(s) of the gown will be let down revealing a gorgeous, traditional billow or ripple effect on the backside of the gown.

The Bubble Bustle

The Bubble Bustle is a newly emerging form of Bustle designed to create a shorter informal version of your gown.In this instance, the loops or string ties are on the bottom hem of the gown creating a bubble effect at the bottom of your gown. It is important to note, that bubble bustles average around 15 ties and are typically the most expensive of the bustle styles.

Remember Not All Bustles are Made Equal!

Assign someone to help bustle your dress on the wedding day. On the last appointment of your alteration, bring up to three trusted companions to learn your gown bustle. Typically this will include the maid of honor, other members of the bridal party, or your wedding planner..

Its important to keep in mind that bustles do not come standard on gowns by the manufacturer or bridal boutique. They will be added per your request by a seamstress once your gown has been selected. Thankfully, most bridal boutiques work directly with trusted seamstresses who will gladly aid in selecting the right bustle type for your gown.

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Tips For A Smooth Wedding Day

I have planned weddings for hundreds of couples, walking by them every step of the way. Now let’s be honest, we all know how stressful the actual planning of the wedding process is, but even after all the planning is done and we await the big day, the stress typically does not end until the festivities are officially over and the couple is off on their honeymoon. Because I know your nerves will be shot on your big day, I have provided some tips I have found helpful to ensure your wedding day runs smoothly.

1) Make a timetable for the morning of. Hair, make-up, breakfast, bouquets and breathing...the morning of your wedding is a hectic one to say the least! The trick to making the hustle and bustle more exciting than stressful is to make out a short time table (and keep to it!) You don’t have to get into incredible details but it’s handy to have a notebook with approximate arrival times of you suppliers (also have a contact number jotted down for each so that anyone can give a bell while you’re working away yourself), timing for hair and make-up etcetera to be finished and the last possible minute you can get into your dress.

This is one tip that a surprising amount of couples don’t heed. For peace of mind (and piece of sanity) on your big day, send any directions or info needed to all guests with their invitations, or put them on your personal website. People who take for granted how easy it is to get from church to reception or to get to the venue at all find themselves on their phones all morning telling their mates to take ‘the other right’. Knowing that you’ve done all you can to get people to the wedding means that yourself and your OH can turn your phones off without so much as a wince.

2) Assign a member of the bridal party to your photographer. Once you’ve done all your research and are happy with your photographer, you shouldn’t really need to be worried about getting the shots you want on the day. If you want a mixture of documentary style shots and posed pictures, assign a bridesmaid or groomsman to the task. They can work with your photographer to make sure you get all the shots you want, from gathering groups of people to pointing out who’s who among the guests –just make sure the photographer knows who they should deal with for the day, and vice-versa

3) Make sure you have a dresser. This is an obvious tip, but one which is often forgotten; make sure somebody knows how to get you in and out of your dress! Assign someone to this task and make sure you do a quick dress rehearsal the week of the wedding so that your dresser is comfortable to take charge on the day. This person can also be in charge of having pins, chalk and any accessories you are wearing on the day. Make sure this person hasn’t got a fresh manicure or dark nail polish that will come off on your dress.

4) Create a perfect emergency bag. You’ve probably heard this one before, but there’s a good reason for it. Your emergency kit is your savior for the day and will hold everything you need for any nasty little situation. Start by making a list (or getting a list online at Weddings Online!) of all the things you might need throughout your wedding day, from the moment you wake up to when you go to bed. A good emergency kit will prepare you for anything the day throws at you, from dress stains (Tide Sticks ROCK!) You won’t need to keep this all on yourself for the day though, hand it over to your chief bridesmaid who can do a few make-up checks throughout the day, apply a little extra lippy, or baby wipe any tears.

5) Style out your wedding car. We’ve all heard of the bride jumping out of her wedding car on the way to the church, and heading into the local garage for a bottle of water, haven’t we? If you want to avoid a pit stop in white, kit out your car with all you’ll need on the way to the ceremony, and later, the reception. You’ll need lots of water to keep you hydrated for the day, and it’s also handy to have a few nibbles in the car too to keep your sugar levels up. Go for something healthy that won’t stick to your teeth or get too messy –yes that means the chocolate mousse is out I’m afraid!

6) Gift Cards and Gifts Have somebody there to take care of any cards or gifts you are given on the day. There’s nothing worse wondering whether or not somebody gave you a card when you get to writing your thank you notes. Ask a member of the bridal party to keep everything together for you, and if there’s any gifts, to jot down names of people on a notepad. This is a good way to make sure nothing goes missing with all the hustle and bustle of the day and will also give you peace of mind knowing that someone’s got your back!

7) Keep the kids entertained. If you’re having children at your wedding, you should think about implementing a few structures to keep them entertained. If you are having more than four under agers, hiring a professional to do the entertaining for you is immediately going to take a whole heap off your shoulders. However if you’re only having one or two, make up some goodie bags with little toys from the Pound shop a few weeks before, or ask your wedding coordinator if they have a room for the kids to go to play around

8) Make preparations for all types of weather. This one is especially important if you are planning to get married in Charleston S.C. anytime from April-October. No matter where you are there is always a chance of ok here goes, yes I said it “Rain”. Plan B you’ll have to prepare for the worst! Have somewhere indoors that you can take photos in case it rains, and make sure to get yourself a pretty umbrella for getting you in and out of cars! If you have the (nicer) complaint of too much sun, maybe invest in a bridal parasol, there are some really pretty ones available online! If it gets cold, maybe have a pair of vintage gloves on hand to keep warm in photos? Faux fur muffs are also really popular and great for keeping your mitts warm too!

9) Allocate time to spend with your other half. There is so much to do during the wedding day, from the photos to the speeches and the first dance; it’s so easy to forget what the day is really about: two people taking a vow to love each other forever. Taking time to just be with each other, even for 20 minutes, will instantly relieve any stress you have on the day and remind you what it’s all about. Head outside during the reception for a few minutes and take a deep breath together, you’ll look back on those few minutes when it’s all over and be glad you had them.

Now that all that is done and hopefully your nerves have gone down and you're less stressed because half of your "to-do" list has been marked off, LET'S CELEBRATE!

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Summer Wedding Inspiration: Your Time to Shine!

 I’ve found future brides frequently ask two questions when it comes to wedding planning. 1) Where and how do I become and stay inspired? It’s so funny because over the years I have seen that there are brides who have been planning their wedding since they were little girls and know EXACTLY what they want, while on the other hand there are brides who have no idea where to begin or what they want. So where do I go from here? A common question to ask yourself is what time of year do you want to be married? 

The second question you want to consider is: What type of woman are you? Romantic, Retro, Classic, DIY?

 Let’s take a look!

The Retro Summer Bride

Let’s look at “The Retro” inspired Bride-to-be, when it comes to wedding planning. How about collecting memorabilia from a particular time or place in your life or your imagination?? Estate Sales. Garage Sales, Flea Markets, your parent’s attic, all may have hidden gems just waiting to get scooped up and personalized by you.

Escort Cards: How about hanging a clothesline between two trees, have your escort cards hung with clothes pins?

Tables: Small round tables with vintage linen, the more design and color the better

Centerpieces: Old Colored Mason Jars, Medicine Bottles, Fresh Seasonal Flowers, all make unique and affordable centerpieces.

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Menu: A Large Chalk Board with your reception menu. Food Stations with small vintage picture frames with food item offered.

The Romantic Summer Bride

Ahhhhhh the romantic! The romantic bride-to-be would most likely go along

Escort Cards: Small locally grown trees work perfectly as an escort card display and as a unique wedding reception decoration. Pin your escort cards to organic locally grown tea bags and then simply arrange them within each Branch.

Tables: White is Right! How about rectangular tables covered with simple white cotton linens and surround each table with natural wood slatted chairs.

Centerpieces: Collect classic teacups and saucers. They’ll become the focal point of your centerpieces. Cluster and stack a few of them together on each table. Use some of the teacups to hold garden plants and vines that will creep across the table linens.

Entertainment: Croquet or bocce anyone? Or how about cornhole! This is a great way to entertain your guests! ! Why not throw in a bit of competitive edge to your celebration, Winner gets a bottle of bubbly!

The Summer DIY Bride

This, my loves, gives you a chance to shine and show off your creativity! After the ceremony, ask your guests to join you for a cozy, intimate afternoon picnic. Beach, Plantation or Public Park, what better way to have your guest’s kicks off their shoes and relax?

Escort Cards and Centerpieces: How about what I call “The double whammy” doubling up and incorporating escorts cards with déco. Have mini vases full of potted garden herbs for your guests. These pots will not only serve as escort cards -- each one will have a small sign on it with your guest's name and seating assignment -- but when brought back to the “table,” it’ll also serve as the centerpiece. For an added bonus, they’ll also take them home as favors! This is what truly makes wedding planning a unique personalized experience.

Tables: Nope… Blankets!! Cotton Quilts and Throws are wonderfully light. Have a basket full and let your guests chose their size and color and sit where they’d like

Menu: How about wicker baskets with recycled paper containers to go along buffet line and help themselves. Set up your food stations as though they were farmers’ market tables, allow guests to select picnic-friendly menu items, like fresh fruits, vegetables, salads, and finger sandwiches.

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Vow Renewal -Second Time Around

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Staying together deserves a celebration too.Why save all the splashy, no-holds-barred wedding celebrations for the newly betrothed? When half of all marriages end in divorce, shouldn't the committed couples that survive the wear-and-tear of a partnership deserve a heartfelt party too? So, if you and your partner are candidates for planning a well-earned recommitment ceremony, read on for the “whys” demystified for this too-rare event!

Why Do It Again? There are pretty much four good reasons for a do-over:

1. You want to commemorate a huge decade anniversary in a big way. 2. Your original wedding wasn’t as dreamy as you wanted (whether due to a mishap like a hurricane, you were young and it was your parents’ to-do or you didn’t have the hefty budget then that you have now). 3. You eloped the first time and now you want to gather your friends and family. 4. You’ve survived some tests to your marriage—from sickness to a long-distance military deployment—and it’s time to re-affirm your love.

Why It Is More Relaxed Since a vow renewal doesn’t have to be recognized by your religious or civil authorities, the sky’s the limit on who can marry you and where you can do it. Ask your oldest child to act as officiant—you don’t need a legally legit officiant to sign off on a marriage license. Do it on a desolate tropical island—the country’s rules on visitor weddings won’t apply to you.

Why It Is Hassle-Free You can skip the bachelor or bachelorette parties this time (you’re not single anymore, remember?). And you don’t need to go out and choose a gift registry either; that is reserved for first-timers who need to accumulate the basics to build a home…that you already inhabit. You also don’t need to pick attendants because their official role is as witnesses and there’s nothing official about a vow renewal.

Why Not Let Someone Else Host? While you and your fiancé hosted your first wedding, a nice touch to a vow renewal is to have a close friend, or even a child if old enough, host the celebration. Since you don’t have to do your ceremony in a traditional place of worship, you are free to marry anywhere your host suggests.

Why You Skip Some Rituals And Repeat Others When Colin Cowie recently planned the vow renewal ceremony for celebrity actress Holly Robinson Peete and former NFL quarterback Rodney Peete, he made sure some traditions of their first wedding resurfaced at the renewal ceremony—and others, like involving their four children in the ceremony—were brand new. Some rituals to skip on the do-over event include the father-daughter or mother-son dance and the toss of the bouquet or garter. However, continuing the tradition of the married couple’s first dance, especially to the music used the first time around, is a nice touch.

Why Your Dress Code Can Be Creative If you still fit into your original gown and tux, go for it. But you can also slip into something festively suited for your occasion’s location from a party dress to a fitted gown. Just skip the veil—the first time was enough.

Why You Exchange Words—And Jewelry The words you speak the second time around are meant to affirm your love so many years later. It is nice to recall things you said the first time you married as well as address how your union has changed—for the better. While you already have a set of rings you’ve exchanged, it may be time to upgrade your baubles or engrave your original bands with new words. Other options are exchanging different objects: Holly Robinson Peete, for example, gave Rodney a pair of cufflinks at their 17th anniversary vow renewal ceremony.

Why The Reception Is Different The core of this event is to celebrate your enduring love. So, let your guests shower you with toasts acknowledging this feat. Other nice touches at the reception include bringing your original wedding album and juxtaposing it with photos of your married life. And don’t forget to hire a photographer again—you’ll want to have it all captured just like the first.

Why Your Invite Needs Special Attention Since this event isn’t nearly as commonplace as a wedding, your invites need to be very informative. Hosting the event yourself? Try:

The honor of your presence is requested at the reaffirmation of the wedding vows of NAME OF COUPLE DATE

Or, try:

Please join us as we renew our wedding vows and celebrate NUMBER OF years together NAME OF COUPLE DATE Having your kids host it? Say: The children of NAME OF COUPLE Request the honor of your presence at the vow renewal ceremony [or reaffirmation ceremony] of their parents on DATE

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Make Your Wedding Day all about You!

Good afternoon friends!  I plan a lot of weddings in which the couple wants to do something to add a little bit of flavor to their wedding day but often get asked “how can I do so?” Don’t worry it is completely normal! So to help you out a little bit I have developed a list of ideas to help you out if you want to personalize your wedding a little bit, Enjoy!

1. Choose a venue that feels like you- Whether it already has things incorporated or not. You don’t want to pick a place that absolutely doesn’t look like you. You want to pick a venue that is close to your own personal style.

2. Write your own vows- Take pen to paper and write straight from the heart. Have someone who is near and dear to you do a reading.

3. Start with the tabletop- Personalizing the look of the wedding can be as easy as adding an overlay of fabric over the basic table cloth that’s already provided. And decorate each napkin, whether it’s adding a sprig of rosemary or a fun little note that you can put on the tables. Pinterest is always a good way to look up fun ideas!

4. Create your own table numbers- Instead of using the plastic table numbers that come with every catering facility, make your own!

5. Have fun with the way you word your menu card- instead of having it say, ‘In honor of, you could say ‘Let’s eat!’ or something fun like that.

6.Create a signature cocktail- Now more than ever, people are into the whole cocktail experience. Skies the limit, whatever reflects your own style DO IT!

7. Feel free to indulge with an ice-cream bar stocked with your favorite flavors.

8. Summer ceremony? It gets HOT here in Charleston during the summer so a good way to keep your guests cool is to have your wedding programs printed on paper fans.

9. Ask your videographer to set up a stationary camera and let guest’s record messages—It's a video guest book!

Remember it’s your day and it can be everything and more than you ever imagined. Be honest, creative and asys, “enjoy the ride.”

Happy Beginnings! Mike

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Beach Style Wedding

Are you a bit of a free spirit who would like to get married with a breeze in your hair, the sun on your face, the sound of waves lapping on the sand and a beautiful bouquet of flowers in your hands? If this is you then it sounds to me like you’re a bride with a vision, and that being getting married on one of the beautiful beaches of your choice

Remember, you’re getting married on a beach, which means you need to be thinking lightweight gowns with fabrics like chiffon. Consider the romance of your surroundings – white sand and blue skies. Think about simple ‘goddess’ style lines to your wedding dress, which hang in simple folds and drape the body loosely. Or you may prefer strapless style wedding dresses, which also look fabulous as you glide elegantly towards your groom and you’ll stay cooler when the time comes for dancing.

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running down beach.

Bridal Accessories? Well, you might decide that a vibrant tropical flower in your hair is enough to set off your outfit. As for bouquets, this is the time when some brides choose to commission a piece to keep forever as a memento of their special day. Think about shading yourself and your maids under a parasol. And as for shoes, it’s time to ditch the heels – think wedding flip-flops instead. No matter what you chose, I promise it will be breath taking!

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Get Creative With Your Centerpieces

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The days of uniform centerpieces are quickly fading away. These days, mix and match centerpieces are all the rage.The idea is to design a variety of centerpieces which have enough in common to work in harmony, but avoid looking overly coordinated or “matchy-matchy”. High and low table arrangements are one way to express this trend. The florist creates two or three different centerpiece designs in a range of heights, and they are spread evenly throughout the reception tables, alternating high and low on each table.

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Another idea is to group a cluster of flowers in non-matching vessels in the same color. Using the same color ensures that the grouping flows well, while the different heights and shapes provide visual interest. For even more offbeat reception centerpieces, try the trend of using unique props as flower vessels rather than standard vases. Unique vessels such as boxes, stacked books, and even kitchen accessories can serve as the foundation for floral displays. Another fun trend regarding the centerpiece vessels is to fill them with a decorative element, such as crystals, colored water, pebbles, sea glass, or even fresh lemons, limes, or green apples. It is an easy way to make the centerpieces look high style and very current. It is always a good idea to have different ideas on what you want and talk to your wedding planner about it, from there the both of you will be able to tell your florist exactly what you want! Be fun with it because that is what it’s all about!

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Four Seasons of Wedding Planning Colors

How the Four Seasons can have an impact on your wedding planning colors

Spring

Spring is about freshness!!! Fresh natural colors like yellows, greens, blue and pink are my favorites. I’m all about what local and vibrant.

Summer

What comes to mind? Fun and Festive! Consider if you wedding is indoor or outdoors. Indoor venues are more conservative and follow one tone, so we suggest pulling in all those vibrant bright colors that Mother Nature provides us. Outdoors gives us the opportunity to use the surrounding beauty of nature and lends itself to what is in bloom and flourishing! Sometimes in this case, less is more

Autumn

Now for example, Charleston’s autumn, go as quick as they come. Our summers last so long here in Charleston SC __Link that all the above could come into play. Now for your Northerners, that’s a different story. With the transition from summer brings, orange, brown and red color schemes.

Winter

Wintertime anywhere is a great opportunity to incorporate lighting. Candles are a wonderful way to replace (Not Totally) floral. My advice, Fire and Ice. Shades of red, white, light blue and silver are simply elegant and timeless.

Not Crazy about the 4 Seasons idea for inspiration? No biggie because it’s all about you and your vision.

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Banning Cell Phones at Weddings

Greetings my lovelies,

I’d like to share with you my suggestions from an experienced wedding planner’s perspective on why guests should refrain from using their cell phones during a wedding ceremony and other private moments during a couple’s special day. I have seen everything from guests climbing a tree, leaning right into the altar area and actually standing in the aisle!!  Wedding guests are there for one reason: to support the couple. Nothing about that requires telephone access during the ceremony, or leaping up with a camera like you’re at a concert.

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Here are my suggestions:

Put a note in your wedding program:

"We ask you to kindly turn off your ringers during the wedding ceremony and refrain from taking photos. We have professional photographers on hand to capture all the special moments and are excited to share their photos with you per the request of couple in the near future."

While cell phones are a means of entertainment and communication, they can also be a hindrance to the wedding party. People texting during the wedding ceremony have absolutely no interest in the main event. People clicking photos with flash during the wedding ceremony may lead to a hassle for the photographer trying to get professional shots. And the worst group is the ones who let their phones vibrate or ring out loud during the ceremony or when the officiate is speaking.

Ask your officiate to make an announcement. "The bride and groom have asked me to ask you to put your phones and cameras away during the ceremony. Please sit back, relax and enjoy.

Ask your DJ or band leader to make an announcement. Put a sign on the bar and reception table with a note saying. "We encourage you to share your selfies with a hashtag #_____ “

In closing, I’ll leave you with this thought.  “Lets tune into our hearts and not social media for once in our lives.”

 

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Sweet Treats-Wedding Cakes and Candy!

There is nothing new about having a fancy cake at a wedding reception, but every season brings about new trends for this old classic. Of course, there is the cupcake tower, and now the brownie cake, but for most couples, a tiered wedding cake is still the preferred wedding dessert. One reason for this is that it gives so much opportunity for creative expression. A truly beautiful wedding cake can be the showpiece decoration of the entire reception. Tall cakes, with five or seven tiers are one popular trend currently. This allows for a lot of drama and elegance.

The fun surprise is that in many cases, not all of the tiers are actual cake. There many well are some Styrofoam tiers stacked with the real cake to allow for extra height. When it is all frosted together, it is impossible to tell.Crystal monograms and flowers are more in vogue these days then traditional bride and groom cake toppers. For those who can afford them, elaborate sugar flowers are very popular, with fresh flowers a close second. The ultra-smooth look of fondant has reigned supreme in recent years, but lately brides have been rediscovering the joys of classic butter cream frosting.

Colorful and unique cakes continue to be very sought after, as brides now view their wedding cake as an opportunity to really make a statement. A very popular trend over the last several years is the candy buffet. What's not to love about a whole big display dedicated to candy? The concept of the candy station is simple: set out large jars or bowls of delicious candies with scoops. The key to making it elegant is to design an attractive presentation, such as over sized glass apothecary jars with silver scoops.

There is usually a theme to the candy, as well. In some cases, it is simply an assortment of the bride and groom's favorite childhood sweets, but many couples make the theme more elaborate than that. It could be carnival theme candy, all pink or all blue candy, or perhaps all chocolate candy. The candy buffet often serves as the wedding favor, so be sure to set out to-go containers. Chinese takeout containers with a custom sticker are a popular way to box up candy favors, or one can use simple glassing bags with pretty stickers for sealing. This is one trend that is sure to stick around, due to its overwhelming popularity withCharlestonSCwedding guests!

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Mike

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Save The Dates are Fun!!!

In today’s world, planning ahead has become a necessity. Save the dates allow your guests to plan for your wedding day well in advance. This is especially important for out-of-town guests, or destination weddings. Remember, this is not an announcement, it’s just a heads up

Guests Save the date etiquette is vital here. The most important thing to do before sending out a save the date card is to finalize your guest list. The save the date card is a pre-announcement that lets your guests know that they will be invited to the wedding.

Once you sent out a save the date card to a guest, you cannot un-invite them. If, by chance there is a wedding budget crisis, and you need to make guest cuts, it is good to know this before you send out the cards. You can trim a guest list easier when the guests are not yet pre-invited.

When you send out a save the date card, be sure to list if the person invited can include a guest. There are a couple of ways this can be done. If you know the name of the guest that will be invited, include them when addressing the card. If not, it is acceptable to include "and guest". Also, if children are to be included, list them on the card as well.

When should save the dates be sent? Send them as soon as you set your wedding date and have secured your ceremony and reception sites... This can be from 6 months to a year before the wedding. When planning your destination wedding, the more time you can give your guests the better, it can be a year or mom in advance.

Helpful info: The only guests who will be invited to the wedding should receive a save the date. For wording, keep it shirt and sweet! Your names, wedding date and “Invitation with details to follow.” If it’s a destination wedding how about including travel agencies along with resort and hotel information. Your save the dates can be anything from refrigerator magnets to photo postcards, skies the limit!

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How To Personalize Your Wedding Day

New York City destination couple hosted their Charleston S.C. wedding that I had the honor of acting as Wedding Planner at the breathtaking Legare Waring House. Courtney and John being school teachers designed their own personalized table seating assignments using a library card catalog with personalized scrabble name place cards and classic love story books as centerpieces. Our peeps at Aaron and Jillian captured these special moments.

 

1 “Choose a venue that feels like you, whether it already has things incorporated or not. You don’t want to pick a place that absolutely doesn't look like you. You gotta get somewhere close to your own personal style.”

2 “Write your own Vows. Take pen to paper and write straight from the heart. Have someone who is near and dear to you do a reading—perhaps a special love poem—or sing an aria from a favorite opera.”

3 “Start with the tabletop. Personalizing the look of the wedding can be as easy as adding an overlay of fabric over the basic table cloth that’s already provided. And decorate each napkin, whether it’s adding a sprig of rosemary or a fun little note that you can put on the tables.”

4 “Create your own table numbers instead of using the plastic table numbers that come with every catering facility.”

5 “Have fun with the way you word your menu card, instead of having it say, ‘In honor of,’ you could say ‘Let’s eat!’ or something fun like that.”

6 “Create a signature cocktail. Now more than ever, people are into the whole cocktail experience. Skies the limit, whatever reflects your own style.”

7 Feel free to indulge with an ice-cream bar stocked with your favorite flavors.This wedding planners favorite!

8 Summer ceremony? Have your wedding programs printed on paper fans.

9 Ask your videographer to set up a stationary camera and let guest’s record messages: It's a video guest book!

Remember it’s your day and it can be everything and more then you ever imagined. Be honest, creative and as always “Enjoy the ride”

Happy Beginnings,

Mike

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Benefits of Working With a Wedding Planner

Question: Do I really need a wedding consultant?

Answer: YES!!!

A wedding consultant is an expert in the wedding planning process. They have all the resources that couples need to find exactly what you want to make your special day the very best it can be.

You may want to consider hiring a planner if...

You can't spare at least 12 hours per week to do the job yourself - and twice that much time as the wedding date draws near. (It takes an average of 750 hours to plan and execute a wedding, from start to finish.)

• You want to invite more than 100 guests.

• You're planning a destination wedding."

This is the celebration that will send you into a brand new life together as husband and wife, so why not start it out in the best way possible. The best time to hire a wedding planner is as soon as the thought enters your mind. 

A tried and true way to find a reputable planner is to ask other wedding specialists in the area to share their experience working with them. Never be afraid to ask for a few referrals;

Look for a full-time wedding planner, not someone who just dabbles in the biz for fun. When interviewing a potential wedding planner best to ask if they will be the planner they'll be working with from beginning to end. Ask for a list of past and present couples to share their experience with you.

FYI-  Just because a planner is not listed on a venue’s preferred vendors list does not mean that they cannot work there. Read the fine print, venues created those lists as a guideline not as an exclusivity list.  

Remember that this is a huge decision as you will be sharing your personal interests, trust, and finances with a person that will have a great deal of control (with your approval) over how things will flow for your special day. If you are shopping online and cannot meet with a wedding planner in person right away it’s ok, that’s where the referrals come into play. Please make sure to follow up on them by personally speaking with each referral.

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7 Ways to Reduce the Average Cost of a Wedding

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Want to cut down on your wedding costs, but have nightmares about a roomful of guests picking at iceberg lettuce for dinner? Brides- and grooms-to-be, take comfort: Trimming wedding costs doesn't have to mean foregoing the Plaza suite in favor of Grandma's spare attic bedroom. Wedding consultants around the country told us that there are plenty of ways to nip and tuck the fat in your wedding budget without your family and friends being any the wiser.

1. Avoid the High Season

In case you haven't noticed, the majority of weddings take place from May through October. So you could save across the board on limos, photographers and caterers, etc., by getting married during one of the quieter months, such as January or March...

2. Bond with Other Brides

We suggest networking with other brides to divvy up the decorating costs at catering halls. "Talk to the bride who is getting married immediately before or after to see if you have similar ideas for decorations, or share a tent??”If so, you might be able to split the cost."

3. Cut the Cake

Another unnecessary reception budget-breaker: overloading on sweets. “I think people generally overspend on cakes,” After a long evening of eating, drinking and dancing, many guests will forego dessert altogether. How about a small 2 -tier cake for the traditional  "Cake Cutting" photo  adorned with mini one bite sweet treats?

4. Greens Are Good

And how many of the guests know what kind of flowers are in season at any given time of year? "Stay with what's in season, use more greens and fewer blooms," "No one will ever notice." Roses are always available, but brides should steer clear of floral-intensive holidays such as Mother's Day, when high demand will drive up costs.  Don't feel the need to adorn the church with fresh flowers for the ceremony. "People expect churches to be less ornate, and they'll spend a lot more time at the reception,"

5. Dress down the Gown

Assuming that no one at the wedding will be checking out the tags on your bridal gown, the dress can be another good place to economize.The gown doesn't need to fit like a glove right away: having a too-large dress fitted will still be less expensive than buying one that's custom-made.

6. Do Yourself a Favor

According to Markel, the average number of wedding guests is 157, which means that overspending on seemingly inexpensive items such as invites and party favors can add up to a big hit on your checkbook. "If you use candy kisses in the favor instead of truffles, you'll save about $3 per bag," We recommend letting place cards double as favors, or incorporating the favors into a creative table centerpiece of chocolates or candles. One of our brides used assortments of giant, colorful seashells for her centerpieces; guests loved it. We’ve even seen a bride put a small bowl filled with smooth rocks and a live goldfish on each table when she got married. The guests were given plastic bags to take the fish home.

7. Save a Tree

Most brides end up overshooting their initial budget by about 15%; we encourage our couples to think twice before spending hundreds of dollars on a seven-piece hand-engraved invite. The invitation liner is completely unnecessary, Keep it to a single sheet, this saves on the costs of both paper and postage.

Happy Beginnings ,

Mike

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How to Choose The Perfect Wedding Venue

When couples begin looking for a wedding venue, too often they fall in love with the beauty of the place and sign a contract before they've considered the more practical things. It makes sense -- who wants to look back and say only, "Well, it was practical"? But unless the place is so magical that you're willing to plan your whole event around it, you shouldn't choose between wedding venues until you've decided approximately how many guests you're inviting and the size of your budget. You'll also need to decide if you want to have your ceremony and reception in the same place, or if you want an all-in-one wedding venue.

Once you know these things, and you have a few venues in mind that fit that budget and size, then it's time to start asking questions!

Now you might be thinking what sort of questions should I ask? Since you are most likely only considering the “look” of the venue, I have offered some insight on what else should be considered when choosing your venue. For example:

What's the decor like? Does it fit your style and wedding colors? Will you have to spend a lot of money on flowers and decorations to make it beautiful?

Do they have an in-house catering and bar, and do you like that food or their pricing? (While an in-house caterer can be easier and cheaper, sometimes the food is not as beautiful as the room. So make sure you taste it!) Do they have a limitation on which outside caterers you can use?

Do they have adequate coat check and bathroom facilities?

Is the wedding venue wheelchair accessible? If not, are there many stairs to climb? How close is the parking to the ceremony and reception rooms?

What's the cancellation policy?

Is there a payment schedule? What kind of deposits is required?

Are there any hidden costs? (Before you sign the contract, read it carefully.)

What are the overtime charges?

Do they have a liquor license?

Will they allow you to bring your own liquor? (This is usually cheaper, even with the customary corkage fee.)

Is there room in the wedding venue for a band and/or dancing?

Does the wedding venue already own a sound system with adequate speakers or will that need to be rented?

Is there a space for the bride and groom to change and/or relax?

Where will you take photographs? Is there a park nearby, or do the coordinators have recommended spots on the grounds?

Who will be supervising and troubleshooting before the day of your wedding? Who will be supervising and troubleshooting on the day of your wedding? Can you meet them now?

Where can your guests park? Are there extra fees for parking? Do they have valet parking?

Is the wedding venue convenient to public transportation, especially in big cities? How long will it take your guests to get there?

Especially in museums or private clubs, are there limitations on decorations? Do they limit food and drinks to only certain areas of the wedding venue?

Are candles or other open flames allowed?

If it’s an outdoor location, do they have any backup plans for rain or other inclement weather? If not, is there a place that you can put up a tent?

When Looking at Separate Wedding Reception Venues and Ceremony Locations • How far is it from one location to the other? • Do the two places have the same level of formality and a coordinating style? • Do they both accommodate about the same number of guests? • Does the wedding reception venue have any experience with weddings from your ceremony location? When Looking for Wedding Venues for Both Ceremony and Reception • Do they own enough chairs for the ceremony, or will they need to be rented? • Does the wedding venue have an entirely separate area for the ceremony? {It is not uncommon that while the guests are at the cocktail hour, the caterers will transform the ceremony room into the dining room and/or dance floor.) • If not, how long does it typically take for the staff to change over the room?

Hopefully, these questions will help you cover the basics while you're looking at wedding venues. In your search for a wedding venue, there will probably be even more questions that arise for you personally. For instance, you may want the menu to reflect your heritage, or with a large wedding party, you may need ample parking for limousines. All of the above are just some examples that should be taken into consideration to ensure your wedding day is one of the best days of your life!

Happy Beginnings, Mike

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Newly Engaged - Now What? # 2 is going to blow your mind!

# 2 is going to blow your mind! 

Wedding planning at first can seem like an overwhelming process — with so many details to take care of and options to choose from, where does one begin?

Well we have the answer, Yep,you guessed it! The internet has become the most popular source of information for ideas, advice,helpful tools and suggestions

So let’s get started…

1. Along with becoming  newly engaged,comes a flurry of excitement , enthusiasm and unnecessary stress  along with the ever so popular question, now what?  Well, help is on the way! Before you get too far ahead of yourself thinking about food, booze, and music let's  first consider the three most important things, a wedding date and securing a ceremony and reception venue. This where our always reliable Google comes to the rescue once again!  Type in your destination area ending with wedding venues. So many choices what's a girl to do?!

Yikes, now what?!

2. Seek out a local wedding planner.  Oh Google.. we need you again. Type in your destination area ending with wedding planners . Helpful hint. Just because a wedding planner's listing  appears on the 1st page search it does not mean they are the most popular or better then others  in the area. This is what shows up organically and  it's how Google gives all peeps equal opportunity to promote their business. When seeking out a Wedding Planner, skip all the pretty pictures and fluff and look for experience  and credibility. Certainly when you seek out a specialist in any field, medical, fitness, education ,wouldn't you rather hire someone with numerous years of experience, local resources ,excellent reviews, and whose style and personality that matches yours?

3. I can't afford a Wedding Planner

My advice.. Start  with the “ Needs” for your wedding day in order of preference. Ceremony and Reception sites, Photographer, Catering , Bar, Ceremony and Reception Music, Floral / Decor, Cake and Sweet Treats.Do your homework when seeking out vendors that you are not familiar with. Referrals should be a must as well as a good open line of communication. Did they promptly return or email or phone call or did they just send you to their website? We truly believe in the motto” You only get one chance to make a first impression.

Getting Started

Particularly in the early stages, it’s hard to know where to start. Luckily, many sites provide planning resources from the onset. The precursor to any wedding, of course, is getting engaged, and that solely depends on the grooms inspiration for his proposal. The knot offers a wonderful post 50 Most Romantic ways to propose .

Once you’ve gotten engaged, it’s time to start planning the big day. Because planning a wedding is such a big task, One Wed figures you need all the help you can get. The site enables couples to seek out friends and family to share tips and offer advice. The Wedding Checklist feature provides a customized task list that can be edited, delegated, and, of course, checked off once completed. By sharing the planning workload with friends and family, you can free yourself to spend more time  actually enjoying your wedding.

Weddings, though, don’t generally come free, so you’ll need a way to keep on top of how much everything you’re planning costs and how it fits into your budget. Get Ever Snap , the creator of a number of Facebook wedding planning tools, has that offers an itemized breakdown based on one’s overall wedding budget and number of guests. The budget covers all categories, including the reception, photo/video, fashion, music, flowers and decoration, rings, transport and hotel, ceremony, and stationary.

Finding Vendors

The wedding industry is vast, and selecting quality vendors can be difficult, especially when you’re trying to stick to your budget. Large sites like The Knot,  and Wedding Wire offer local directories based on region, as well as discussion forums, enabling couples to get advice and reviews about vendors in their area.

Because weddings are one-time affairs, most wedding vendors don’t get a lot of repeat business, so it’s not likely that you’ll have personal experience with many of the vendors you’ll end up working with. Local directories can help you find everything from a venue to a caterer to a photographer and by relying on the reviews of others; you can help assure that you’ll be working with vendors that will make sure you wedding goes off without a hitch.

Invitations and Wedding Websites

Keeping guests informed and involved is often a challenge. Paper invitations, save the date cards, and directions to the reception are both expensive and often misplaced. Luckily, there are a variety of online tools that can be easily located and synchronized with email and calendars, as well as cut costs, save paper, and engage guests.

While you may not be able to completely do away with paper invitations (since it is doubtful that all of your guests will be tech savvy enough to rely solely on electronic invites), creating a wedding web site is essential. Your wedding web site will be able to provide guests with vital information about the wedding schedule, location, travel arrangements (such as nearby hotels and restaurants), background about you and your fiancé, and links to your registry. There are a large number of options for creating your web site, including eWedding, and MyWedding.com.

Another option is Zank You, which provides wedding websites with multimedia capability, so that guests can not only post comments, but upload songs and videos in the guest book. Zink You also provides couples with the ability to poll guests on their wedding websites so you can involve guests in wedding planning decisions (such as whether to go

Wherever you choose to create and host your wedding site, you can augment your site with the Bridal Guide Save the Date Widget, which allows your guests to add your wedding information to their calendars with one click.

Sharing the Big Day

Even after the wedding is over, your guests will still want to hear from you. Send a thank you tweet once you’re back from your honeymoon, and upload pictures onto Face book and Flickr. Use sites like thisMoment or Panraven to create multimedia storybooks of your big day, and even consider creating a hard bound photo book of your wedding as a keepsake for close relatives (like your parents or grandparents) at Blurb or Lulu.

You can also take advantage of your wedding web site after the big event and encourage your guests to keep in touch and share any pictures or video they may have shot during the wedding. Create an invitation-only group on Flickr and invite guests to share photos, or create a special wedding hash tag on Twitter and ask guests to tweet their memories of the wedding. By keeping connected with guests on social media sites you can share with them other milestones in your new life

Happy Beginnings, Mike

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Wedding Planners Are Essential

We as humans, all know it is part of life to we seek out a specialist in our daily lives based on education, affordability and quality of service. So shouldn’t it be the same for hiring a wedding planner? The majority of couples that come to us are paying for the wedding themselves, both have full time careers and very little time to put together the celebration they really desire.

In today’s world, wedding planners have become more of a necessity than luxury. So you’re newly engaged and just like anyone else you do a Google search for wedding planners and a list of planners appear on the 1st page. However, just because a planner is one the 1st page doesn’t mean they are the best, this is for anything, not just weddings.

A reputable planner surrounds themselves with vendors and colleagues to meet everyone needs and budgets whatever it is. Make some calls to locals vendors, venue managers and shop owners that work with a planner you are interested in and ask them, how they really are behind the scenes to work with.

Ok, end of lecture... Cut and dry, the right planner will save you time and money AND most importantly stress!  A wedding planners goal should be to make sure the bride and groom NEVER lose focus on their wedding when planning, acting as a the middle man or woman  between the couple and the vendors assuring a stress free planning journey

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Top 10 reasons to hire a Wedding Planner:

1.  Saves time– Planning wedding takes enormous amount of time. In fact, the average couple spends well over 200 hours planning their special day. A good wedding planner will save you time and energy by researching vendors, taking care of the many, many details, and coming up with various creative ideas to make your wedding amazing!

2.  Saves money– Weddings can be extremely expensive. However, by hiring a wedding planner, couples can save a great deal of money. Because wedding planners provide so much business to vendors, they are often able to negotiate discounts for their clients. Wedding planners are also well-versed at helping couples set budgets and sticking to them.

3. Saves relationships – Weddings are very stressful. This stress often results in many arguments for couples as well as with family members and friends. Wedding planners have been there time and time again and know how to avoid such problems before they begin as well as act as a buffer when there are conflicts. Wedding planners are also able to take on the responsibilities often assigned to loved ones so that everyone is able to enjoy the wedding. Remember, you still want a relationship with your mother well after your wedding!

4.  Ensures dreams are made realities– Most have been dreaming of their wedding day their entire life. Wedding planners work for the couple and ensure that all desires are met (and often surpassed)!

5. Offers advice – Wedding planners have planned countless weddings and know exactly what works and what doesn’t. They are also knowledgeable on wedding etiquette. Furthermore, wedding planners are able to recommend competent vendors, based on personal experience.

6. Acts as the “go to person” – The average wedding has at least 22 different vendors. Combine that with the entire wedding party and all of the guests and that is a lot of people with questions and concerns! By hiring a wedding planner, couples can simply tell others “talk to the wedding planner!”

7. Creates schedules– There are so many events leading up to the big day! Couple that with the many things that happen during the wedding and who can keep track? The wedding planner can! Wedding planners are well-versed at making detailed itineraries for all involved (including other vendors) and making sure that everything happens on time!

8. Handles crisis – Whether we like it or not, most big events involve crisis. Who really wants to deal on their wedding day with the bakery not delivering the cake on time or the flower girl throwing a tantrum? No one! Wedding planners know how to handle all unforeseen circumstances.

9. Orchestrates from rehearsal through the end of reception – Do you want to be responsible for organizing rehearsal or making sure the bridal party is properly lined up? How about making sure that the guest who had a little too much to drink departs safely? Wedding planners orchestrate from rehearsal through the end of the reception, ensuring everything goes off without a hitch!

10. Minimizes stress and maximizes fun!– Hiring a wedding planner ensures that you will have a worry-free and stress-free day, thus, allowing you to enjoy your day like your guests!

Happy Beginnings, Mike

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Bridesmaid Etiquette

 

It’s truly an honor to be invited to be an integral part of a wedding party. However, there seems to be a large portion of bridesmaids that are unclear of their role in the special day of their loved one. And it also seems that the majority of brides and bridesmaids alike are in need of either a confidence check, or a serious attitude adjustment.

Bridesmaids

 If you are the Maid of Honor, your duties are clear: assist the bride by planning the bridal shower and bachelorette party. Most bridesmaids though, struggle between being a puppet and being number one. We’ve heard it all: ‘It is not your day’, ‘You are not the center of attention’, and ‘Your opinion doesn’t matter.’ While yes, your say only has so much influence on the events of someone else’s dream wedding, on the other hand, you have to recognize that you are not the bride’s slave as soon as you RSVP ‘yes.’ If you feel you are being taken advantage of, speak up! You are friends, so it shouldn’t be difficult to express your feelings, especially if you are feeling underappreciated. Alternatively, you have to put yourself in perspective within the wedding priorities.

Brides

This is your moment! Celebrating the union of your family and friends to the family and friends of your fiancé. And while you’ve been planning and organizing and making decisions regarding this upcoming day, you should be wary of forgetting what it is like outside your wedding bubble. Yes, you’ve been saving for your wedding day for who knows how long, but be aware that not everyone is saving for your wedding day. The number one Bride-Bridesmaid issue is the wedding budget. By this I mean, what it costs to be in a wedding: hotels, dresses, rental cars, airfare, etc. So perhaps, think of alternatives to that expensive dress and matching heels. (Who knows, they could spend the money they save on a better present for you!)

Above all brides please do not forget to say Thank You to your ladies. Let’s not ignore the reason you invited them in the first place-these are your closest friends and family. Don’t snub their efforts for a sense of importance. They are doing what they can to make you feel special!

And remember, everything comes full circle. Your girls might grin and bear your choices, but one day the time will come when they invite you to a wedding of their own.

And Kharma can be….well we all know how Kharma can be.....

Happy Beginnings, Mike

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